🌿 Personal Reflection: Choosing Instead of Waiting

I’ve realized recently how much I love staying in my comfort zone.

Comfort is easy for me.

For much of my life, I’ve felt like I was given things — experiences, opportunities, relationships, situations — and I simply said yes to whatever arrived.

The good things.
The painful things.
The confusing things.

I’ve often lived from a place of receiving.

And there’s comfort in that.

There’s comfort in waiting.
In letting life happen for me or to me.

What’s much harder for me is choosing.

Choosing what I want.
Choosing conversations I need to have.
Choosing opportunities to go after.
Choosing the people I want in my life.
Choosing growth.

Growth is active.

And active growth is uncomfortable.

For example, I spent years telling myself an extra sixty pounds was okay. And eventually I realized that while acceptance matters, I was also avoiding the discomfort of discipline.

So I made a different choice.

I chose to learn how to eat differently.
I chose to stay with the discomfort of changing my habits.
I chose to stop eating after dinner, even though I love it.

Not because it was easy.
Because I wanted something different for myself.

The same is true emotionally.

I love being passive aggressive sometimes.
I love being a little snooty sometimes.
I love keeping things comfortable because it’s easier than vulnerability or honesty.

But when I communicate that way, I hurt myself and the people around me.

So growth, for me, has become learning how to tolerate the discomfort of doing things differently.

And honestly, I don’t think I truly understood this until I lost my first love.

That loss cracked open my entire comfort zone.

There was no way to keep things comfortable anymore.

The grief was enormous.
The discomfort was everywhere.
And I had to learn how to live alongside it.

Not fix it.
Not rush it away.
But continue living while carrying it.

That experience changed my understanding of discomfort.

Now, when discomfort appears, I try to remember:

Discomfort does not mean something is wrong.

Sometimes discomfort means:

• I’m alive.
• I’m changing.
• I’m growing beyond who I used to be.

And learning how to stay with ourselves inside that process — that’s the practice.

🎧 Private Podcast Episode

The Discomfort of Becoming

This month’s private episode explores the emotional discomfort that comes with growth. You’ll learn how to stay grounded while changing, work with the nervous system during uncertainty, and practice supporting yourself through expansion instead of retreating back into old patterns. CLICK HERE

🌿 In Real Life: What This Looks Like

Raising Your Rates

You know it’s time.

You haven’t raised prices in years.
You’re overextending yourself.
You’re exhausted trying to make everyone comfortable.

And still, your body says:

“What if people get upset?”

Growth here may sound like:

“I’m allowed to value my work.”
“Discomfort doesn’t mean I’m doing something wrong.”

Leaving Gossip

You notice yourself pulled into conversations that leave you feeling smaller afterward.

Instead of continuing, you pause and say:

“I don’t feel comfortable talking about this anymore.”

The discomfort comes first.
But afterward comes strength.

Taking Care of Your Body

You begin exercising consistently.
Tracking food.
Drinking less.
Going to physical therapy.

At first, it feels inconvenient and uncomfortable.

Then slowly:
your energy changes.
Your confidence changes.
Your relationship with yourself changes.

Becoming More Grounded

You stop reacting immediately to other people’s moods and behaviors.

Instead of asking:

“What are they doing?”

You begin asking:

“How do I want to respond?”

That shift changes everything.

💬 Self-Talk Scripts for Growth & Discomfort

When discomfort appears, try:

• “This feels unfamiliar, not unsafe.”
• “Growth often feels uncomfortable at first.”
• “I can stay with myself through this.”
• “I don’t need to rush back to comfort.”
• “I’m learning how to hold a bigger life.”
• “I can feel discomfort without collapsing into it.”
• “This is expansion.”

🧘 Mini Practice Guide: Staying Grounded During Change

1. Notice the Discomfort

Where do you feel it in your body?

Tight chest?
Racing thoughts?
Urgency?

Simply notice.

2. Name What’s Happening

Instead of:

“Something is wrong.”

Try:

“I’m growing.”

3. Ground Yourself Physically

Feel your feet.
Slow your breathing.
Go outside.
Touch something physical.

Growth needs grounding.

4. Stay One Moment Longer

Instead of retreating immediately into old habits, stay present.

Let discomfort move through without letting it define your next action.

5. Choose an Empowered Response

Ask:

“What would the grounded version of me do here?”

Then practice that.

✍️ Journal Prompts

1. Where in my life am I currently growing?
2. What discomfort keeps showing up for me lately?
3. Where do I abandon myself when things feel uncertain?
4. What would it look like to stay grounded while changing?
5. What old comfort zone am I outgrowing?

🌿 An Invitation

If you’re realizing that you want more support practicing this work in real time — not just reading about it — I also offer a yearlong mindful communication mentorship.

This is a smaller, more personal space where we practice together more directly.

Inside the mentorship, you receive:

• 💬 Direct contact and support from me
• 🌿 Accountability as you work with these practices in your real life
• 🎧 Three live sessions each month
• 🧠 Guidance through difficult conversations, self-talk, boundaries, relationships, and emotional patterns

This work is not about becoming perfect.

It’s about learning how to stay connected to yourself while life is unfolding.

And sometimes having support while you practice makes all the difference.

👉 If you’re interested in learning more about the mentorship, click here.

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