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💬 Live Call

Our live call this month will be:

🗓 Monday, May 11th
🕑 2:00 PM EST (30 minutes)

https://us02web.zoom.us/j/85138794275

This is your space to:

• Ask questions
• Bring real-life situations
• Practice in real time

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🌿 Free Workshop Invitation for Insiders

Join me on May 13th at 1:00 p.m. est for a workshop on handling difficult conversations. It's free for Insiders https://www.intentionalconversations.com/offers/67wdnn72?coupon_code=INSIDER

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🧠 Small Essay: When the Body Wants to Rush

Patience in conversation isn’t just about waiting your turn to speak.

It’s about what happens inside your body while you’re waiting.

Because often, we’re not actually listening —
we’re managing urgency.

The urge to respond.
To correct.
To defend.
To explain.

You might feel it as:

• Tightness in your chest
• Heat rising
• A quickening in your thoughts
• The need to interrupt or jump in

This urgency feels important.
It feels like something needs to happen right now.

But most of the time, that urgency doesn’t lead to clarity.
It leads to reaction.

Patience is not passive.
It’s an active practice of staying with yourself long enough to choose your words.

When you slow down — even slightly — you create space.

And in that space:

• You hear more clearly
• You respond more intentionally
• You reduce misunderstanding

This month, we’re practicing how to notice urgency in the body… and soften it.

Not eliminate it.
Not judge it.

Just not follow it immediately.

🎧 Private Podcast Episode

Staying Patient When Everything Feels Urgent

This month’s private episode explores how to stay patient when your body feels urgent. You’ll learn how to recognize the physical signs of reactivity, slow them down in real time, and create space to respond more clearly — even in difficult conversations.

🌿 In Real Life: What This Looks Like

At Work
You’re in a meeting and someone says something you disagree with.
You feel the urge to jump in immediately.

Instead, you notice: “Urgency is here.”
You take one breath.

Then you say:
“Can you walk me through that a bit more?”

The conversation opens instead of escalating.

With a Partner
You’re mid-conversation and feel misunderstood.
Your instinct is to interrupt and correct.

Instead, you pause and say internally:
“I can wait.”

You let them finish.
Then respond more clearly — and feel heard.

With Yourself
You’re replaying something you said earlier.

Your mind wants to fix it immediately or spiral.

Instead:
“This can wait. I’ll come back to it.”

Your nervous system settles.

💬 Self-Talk Scripts: Staying Patient in the Moment

Use these when you feel the urge to rush or react:

• “I don’t need to respond right away.”
• “Let me hear this fully first.”
• “Slowing down will help me here.”
• “I can take one breath before I speak.”
• “Clarity comes after the pause.”
• “I can stay with this moment.”

🧘 Mini Practice Guide: The Patience Practice

1. Notice the Urgency

What does it feel like in your body?
Name it: “Urgency is here.”

2. Pause the Reaction

Take one slow breath.
Let your exhale be longer than your inhale.

3. Relax the Body

Soften your jaw.
Drop your shoulders.
Feel your feet.

4. Stay One Moment Longer

Let the other person finish.
Or let your thoughts settle.

5. Choose One Clear Response

• Ask a question
• Reflect what you heard
• Or take a moment before speaking

✍️ Journal Prompts

1. When do I feel the most urgency in conversations?
2. What does urgency feel like in my body?
3. What usually happens when I react quickly?
4. What changes when I pause?
5. What phrase will I use this month to slow myself down?