Maybe you've read my books (How to Communicate like a Buddhist, Talk to Yourself like a Buddhist, or How to Meditate like a Buddhist), read an article, saw an interview, taken one of my courses on DailyOM or heard me on a podcast, or maybe you are simply interested in learning how to communicate in a more kind, honest, and helpful way at home, at work, with your family and friends.
Well ... no matter how you got here, I'm happy you are.
We've got something really exciting to share with you, and it's something that we've been working on for a while.
See, I used to lie awake at night and worry about work, family, friends and boyfriends. I would obsess about all of it. And while all these thoughts and emotions were going on inside I rarely expressed any of them. Instead, a colleague would knock on my cubicle while I was in the middle of something and I'd roll my eyes and say in a passive aggressive tone, "what can I do for you now." Or my boyfriend would ask me to empty the water out of the tea kettle, and I'd argue about why leaving it there made sense. Sometimes someone even asking me a simple question like what do you want for lunch would be difficult to answer. There was so much clutter in my head that I couldn't focus or slow down to express myself accurately. Everything irritated me and had me reacting impulsively, damaging my relationships. Of course I wanted to interact differently, but I just didn't know how.
So I went out and learned everything I could about how to communicate and express myself in a clear, direct and accurate way. And after years of reading, going to lectures, attending seminars and retreats, I came up with a practice grounded in the Buddhist elements of right speech that takes away the clutter, cultivates kind and calm conversations, and shifts the mind out of the internal chatter and into the present moment.
Most everyone I've connected with lately is craving calm and relaxed interactions, and wanting to communicate confidently and compassionately.
The real want is for life to be easy, light, simple, and accessible.
The real want is to be seen, heard, valued, and appreciated.
The real want is to be kind, honest, and helpful, no matter the interaction.
The real want is to embody a sense of calm and peace in our day-to-day lives and interactions.
These past years have been difficult. They've created a lot more stress and overwhelm in our interactions and we see it firsthand in our relationships with our kids, partners, colleagues, and employees. Life doesn't feel anything like what we want it to.
And that's where my group +1:1 program comes in!
What People Are Saying
"I struggled with over-reactivity and over-sensitivity in my closest relationships which made me feel like I had no control over myself. Using the tools and coaching from this practice helped me shift from feeling like a petulant child to feeling like a wise adult in my most challenging personal relationships." - Mickey
“My friends and family and kids share that I am so much calmer and centered. Definitely taking the time to respond is the biggest takeaway for me – be it written or oral communication. Also, even if I slip up and have a reactionary moment – it is a moment or a short time of upset versus hours and days of bad communication.” - Reshmi
"Working with Cynthia with this program helped reset the way that I think about communication. It gave me a system to increase mindfulness in the everyday and gave me tools to analyze, understand, and combat communication pitfalls I thought to be almost insurmountable." -Ingrid
"This powerful practice has uprooted my negative self-talk. I am no longer trapped by judgment and toxic shame. The work has taught me how to tame my mind with self-compassion and honesty. I have stopped lying about my needs and have developed the courage to ask for help." - Franzie
“The practice has helped me begin to notice how my thoughts are often my saboteurs, undermining my self-confidence. I have been able to slow myself down before losing my patience and temper. An enormous shift in my interactions has been my relinquishing my need to control how the other person receives and processes my words, my intentions.”- Kevin
""I am more confident in my interactions. I swear less. I have less judgment if any at all. I am more present in my conversations. I am more patient and tolerant of others. I think more before I speak. I am more silent in conversations and allow others to finish speaking before I talk. I am in a better mood when I speak to people." –Michelle
"I've been sleeping better at night and the other day I woke up wondering where my anxiety went." - Alan
Group + 1:1 Online Program with Cynthia
About Cynthia Kane
Cynthia Kane is the CEO and Founder of the Kane Intentional Communication Institute, LLC. She is a certified meditation and mindfulness instructor and author of How to Communicate like a Buddhist, Talk to Yourself like a Buddhist, and How to Meditate like a Buddhist. She received her BA from Bard College and her MFA from Sarah Lawrence College. Her work has appeared in numerous publications, including the Washington Post, Chicago Tribune, Yoga Journal, Self Magazine, and Women's Day Magazine. She has helped thousands of people learn to speak to themselves, others and the world in a kind, honest, and helpful way. She lives in Washington, DC with her husband and two kids.