And yet, some couples find their way through. How do they come out on top?
When a relationship begins, it feels easy and light hearted. We cherish and brag about our partner's quirks. We want to make their life easier and happier however we can. We are on the move together: developing, growing, dreaming, experiencing, and present. We smile. We laugh. And then something happens, we start arguing, disagreeing. What we used to laugh off or ignore, we can't. And, soon, one argument turns into another and another. Days of not talking or nothing getting resolved can turn into weeks, months, years of passive aggressive behavior, lashing out and resentment. Now it feels like you can't communicate with your partner without sounding desperate or annoyed. Both of you feel attacked or judged.
You're stumped. Every argument feels the same and more difficult and serious and automatic than the next. What's keeping you from resolving the issue and moving forward?
Where do you even find the time to care for your relationship? You have work, kids, family obligations, maybe grandchildren to care for, bills to pay. And for those moments where you do open up space, and clear some time, it's filled with arguing and yearning for a previous version of your relationship or someone else's relationship alltogether.
You've tried to follow relationship advice, read books, go to counseling. You've tried different tactics and routines and scripts, but maybe it works for a day, and then it's back to the same arguments. You're doing everything right, so what could you be missing?
For your relationship to feel easier it seems like you should never argue or disagree, it seems like you have to be happy all the time to have a relationship that works. In truth, every couple argues. So the question is really, what’s stopping your arguments from being calm and cooperative and creating more intimacy and connection?
Every thought that it wasn't possible to stop having the same arguments again and again, that it couldn't look or feel different, that there wasn't any use in trying, I've come face to face with. From feeling unheard, invisible, misunderstood, under-appreciated, and taken advantage of to feeling trapped in the same cycle day in and day out. From struggling with comparing myself to others relationships and wondering what was wrong with me or mine that we couldn't figure this out. I've been there. I've walked on eggshells before, I've yelled and screamed and walked off like a child, too. But throughout all of these challenges, there's one thing I've learned that can prevent all of it from continuing or happening to you. It's the one thing I credit my comeback to.
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Going from where you are now with your partner to where you want to be is as simple as learning a new practice of interacting. But it's not easy.
Imagine being more present within your relationship. Having easy, flowing, adult conversations. Or consistently clear in your interactions, no longer worried about the outcome. Where your confidence may have been lacking before, it's now impossible to be without. The day-to-day fulfillment doesn't seem so out of reach. And the excitement and ease you thought only other couples could have, is now your reality.
Over 10 years working the practice
+ teaching men and women the process to stop having the same arguments again and again
You can try to figure this out on your own, but my experience is here and available for you. I want you to learn from my mistakes so you don't lose the same amount of days as I did feeling stuck, stagnant, and alone. Either path you take won't be easy. But within the training program you’ll have direct coaching with me throughout to take you through.
This is what makes The Kane Intentional Communication™ Training Program unlike other programs out there. I've actually been where you are, figured out a practice to stop having the same arguments again and again with my partner, and have the day-to-day fulfillment to prove it, as well as students whose lives have changed because of it.
CURRICULUM
What We'll Cover
Finally learn a practice to help you feel more calm and connected in difficult conversations with your partner.
15 weeks of coaching and implementation
4 1:1 milestone calls with your own private instructor
Video lessons, resources and meditations specific to communication
Private community group
Books and workbook
4 month check in after the training
Lifetime access
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