How to Create Deeper Connection
TRAINING MODULES
Foundation
Lesson 01: What is Intentional Communication: Here you learn what Intentional Communication is and its benefits.
Lesson 02: Guidelines of Intentional Communication: In this lesson you learn the guiding principles of Intentional Communication and begin to apply these guidelines to your interactions.
Lesson 03: The Practice of Intentional Communication: Here you get an overview of the practice. You learn what each part does individually and then how it fits into the whole.
Practice
Lesson 04: Meditation: You'll learn the practice of meditation and begin practicing meditations specific for enhancing communication. By the end of lesson 04 you will have a weekly, if not daily, meditation practice. Meditations are then prescribed for you throughout the training depending on what's coming up for you.
Lesson 05: Listen to Yourself: Here you'll begin to listen to your body and language. By the end of this lesson you will have changed your relationship to your negative self-talk and know how to quiet the mental chatter and let go of the self judgment and evaluation.
Lesson 06: Listen to Others: In this lesson you learn how to listen to others. By the end you'll be more present in your interactions, able to connect with those who disagree with you or have different opinions, and know how to hold space for others without fixing or giving advice.
Lesson 07: Speak Consciously, Clearly, and Concisely: This is all about expressing yourself in a way that others can hear you. By the end of this lesson you'll be clear on what you need within conversations and how to ask for what you need without worrying about the other person's reaction. You'll start seeing how valuable and necessary your words are and taking empowered action to get your needs met.
Lesson 08: Silence: Learning how to incorporate silence into your conversations is what you'll do in this lesson. By the end, you'll be using silence to create more connection, intimacy, and to access yourself in difficult moments.
Lesson 09: Difficult Conversations: This is all about having difficult conversations. You'll learn the formulas for different types of conversations, how to move through the fear of having them, what to do before, during,and after them, and by the end you'll be seeing difficult conversations as essential to your well-being and that of others as well.
Lesson 10: Putting it All Together: By this point the practice will have already come together for you and you'll be implementing it; however, this lesson puts it all together in a very practical way so you can see all the pieces working together.
There are two weeks per step in the practice. The first week is for learning and the second is for implementation. So new content is released every two weeks
This training is very intentionally designed to help you create new patterns of communicating. The 14 weeks gives us the time needed to unlearn past habits and form new ones.
When you enroll you get immediate access to the welcome material + Lesson 01.
SUPPORT + MATERIALS
Weekly group coaching calls with your instructor where you discuss the lessons, challenges, celebrations, and your experience with the practice
Monthly group coaching call with Cynthia
Four 1:1 Milestone Calls with your Instructor throughout the training
Private community group to connect with other students and ask questions, share intentions and get the support you need
Access to all video lessons and downloads, and over 25 meditations specific for communication
Cynthia's Bestselling Books, How to Communicate Like a Buddhist, Talk to Yourself Like a Buddhist, How to Meditate Like a Buddhist, and Training Workbook
INVESTMENT
The whole narrative of my life shifted when Mauricio (Mau) my first love, my best friend, the person who knew me the best in the world passed away unexpectedly in 2011.
The minute it happened, my life changed forever.
I was a blank canvas, empty.
In March 2011, I sat on the floor of my apartment in New York City, fumbling for my tissues. For months all I could do was lay or sit on my floor, cry, and blow out the pain into tissues or (most of the time) toilet paper. There I was, on my floor, when I realized nobody could come and take this suffering away. If I was going to find a way to enjoy being in the world, it was up to me to make it happen.
Out of my loss came this need, desire, to feel good, to feel cared for. But no matter how much other people tried to nurture me, they couldn’t.
Little-by-little, I realized that the only person who could take care of me, make me a priority, make me feel good, was me. I had to undo alot of what I had been taught and if I wanted to change the way I lived in the world I was going to have to change the way I interacted with it. This meant shifting the way I interacted with myself, others, and in turn the world.
If I wanted to feel more ease and peace within my relationships, it was up to me to figure out how to make that happen.
And I did.
And this is what I want to share with you.
For the last six years I've used a proprietary process called the Kane Intentional Communication Practice™ that helps high achieving individuals speak their truth, better control their emotions, and have clear decision making.
I started sharing this practice to help others suffer less. I've been where you are and I know what it's like to struggle with expressing yourself, being passive aggressive, judgmental, constantly reacting and exaggerating— beating yourself up and wanting more peace and ease.
I spent thirty years not asking for what I needed, constantly feeling like what I had to say wasn't valuable or necessary and that the other person's opinion and voice mattered more than my own.
It took me a long time to figure this all out and I don't want you to do it alone.
What I also get to do with this work is keep Mau's memory alive. Every person I reach or teach gets to know him somehow, meaning they know his name, what he meant to me, and so he lives on and in a way, it gives his death purpose. He was funny, honest, direct, caring and thoughtful - and he didn't care so much about what other people thought. He expressed himself without fear and enjoyed life.
This way of communicating that I created after Mau died is what's allowed me to love again and be in a healthy and thriving marriage, do what I love, and have calm and relaxed interactions with myself, my family, and my kids.
Now, what I want to do is give you the same opportunity. I want to help you learn how to express yourself in a non-judgmental way, become confident, improve your relationships, control your emotions, create ease in relationships, release shame and guilt, empower you in decision making, and help heal generational wounds.
It's time.
YOU HAVE A CHOICE TO MAKE
Do It Yourself And Continue to be
Frustrated by the way you're interacting with those you love and those you don't even know. And frustrated that you can't change this negative communication loop
Struggling to keep your emotions in check with your children and at work, unable to not take things personally, get defensive, lash out, shut down, or get passive aggressive
Feeling numb. Things your partner says or does doesn't bother you anymore, because you've chosen to ignore them, not feel them, and move on
Disconnected from your partner, friends, colleagues, but also yourself. Wondering where you've gone all these years and if it's possible to find your voice again
Anxious and fearful to have conversations with your partner, kids, sister, brother, and general worry about life. The world doesn't feel like such a friendly place
A lot of negative loops in your mind. Self judgment and judging others over where you are in life, career, relationships
Feel unappreciated at home, misunderstood at work, invisible in your interactions with family. Very indecisive in most situations- where the needs of your colleagues, partner, friends come before your own
Avoid conflict with your partner, children, colleagues at all costs. Scared to have difficult conversations
Let Us Help So You Can Experience
Calm and relaxed conversations with your partner. No longer worried about what to say and how to say it
Confidence in expressing your wants and needs clearly and concisely at home and at work so the other person or group can hear it
No longer being gripped by the fear of expressing yourself and your needs to your family and supervisors
More connection and intimacy in your personal relationships
More clear on your wants and needs within interactions at work
What it's like to take care of yourself and navigate confrontation with your children, partner, or siblings
More joyful and intentional with your family and friends
More self-compassion and less self-evaluation and judgment. Less doubt and mental chatter that paralyzes you with fear and worry
What its like to no longer gossip about others at work or compare yourself to others success
Difficult conversations as essential conversations with your partner
Being capable of getting your needs met and setting and sticking to boundaries at home and at work
Much more space in the body and mind, opening you up to more possibility
As I was in search to feel better in the world, I took courses, read books, went to seminars, did therapy, went to retreats and what I was finding out was that everything came back to how I communicated.
And it was one weekend meditation and writing workshop that changed my life forever. I had never meditated before, didn't know much about Buddhism, but I went because writing had always been cathartic for me. Over that weekend I learned to meditate and it was there that I was introduced to the Elements of Right Speech in Buddhism. When I heard them I knew, this was it, these were guidelines I could follow. And, then, I woke up the next day asking, how do I do this? How do I speak in a kind, honest, and helpful way, and that's how my lifestyle experiment was born.
I began to practice interacting differently with myself, which lead to showing up differently with others and my environment.
Imagine what it would be like when...
You can talk to your spouse without getting triggered, seeing red, and wanting to ask for a divorce
Your daughter gets upset with you and you don't yell back, say something hurtful, and walk away
Having a conversation at work with an important stakeholder who had been avoiding you and it ends with her asking you for more of your time to continue talking to her
Having your partner and your children and your work need you all at the same time and you navigate with calm
Having a conversation with a coworker that you typically struggle with and walking away knowing it was the most productive conversation you've had with her in nearly five years
You no longer need to control everything and everyone in your department.
What if you could shift from overwhelm to ease in your most important relationships without compromising who you are?
When does the training begin and end?
Do I get lifetime access to the training material?
What is the time commitment per week?
Do I get support, community or 1:1 coaching?
