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TRAINING MODULES

Foundation

starLesson 01: What is Intentional Communication: Here you learn what Intentional Communication is and its benefits.

starLesson 02: Guidelines of Intentional Communication: In this lesson you learn the guiding principles of Intentional Communication and begin to apply these guidelines to your interactions.

starLesson 03: The Practice of Intentional Communication: Here you get an overview of the practice. You learn what each part does individually and then how it fits into the whole.

 

Practice

starLesson 04: Meditation: You'll learn the practice of meditation and begin practicing meditations specific for enhancing communication. By the end of lesson 04 you will have a weekly, if not daily, meditation practice. Meditations are then prescribed for you throughout the training depending on what's coming up for you.

starLesson 05: Listen to Yourself: Here you'll begin to listen to your body and language. By the end of this lesson you will have changed your relationship to your negative self-talk and know how to quiet the mental chatter and let go of the self judgment and evaluation.

starLesson 06: Listen to Others: In this lesson you learn how to listen to others. By the end you'll be more present in your interactions, able to connect with those who disagree with you or have different opinions, and know how to hold space for others without fixing or giving advice.

starLesson 07: Speak Consciously, Clearly, and Concisely: This is all about expressing yourself in a way that others can hear you. By the end of this lesson you'll be clear on what you need within conversations and how to ask for what you need without worrying about the other person's reaction. You'll start seeing how valuable and necessary your words are and taking empowered action to get your needs met.

 

starLesson 08: Silence: Learning how to incorporate silence into your conversations is what you'll do in this lesson. By the end, you'll be using silence to create more connection, intimacy, and to access yourself in difficult moments.

starLesson 09: Difficult Conversations: This is all about having difficult conversations. You'll learn the formulas for different types of conversations, how to move through the fear of having them, what to do before, during,and after them, and by the end you'll be seeing difficult conversations as essential to your well-being and that of others as well.

starLesson 10: Putting it All Together: By this point the practice will have already come together for you and you'll be implementing it; however, this lesson puts it all together in a very practical way so you can see all the pieces working together.

There are two weeks per step in the practice. The first week is for learning and the second is for implementation. So new content is released every two weeks

This training is very intentionally designed to help you create new patterns of communicating. The 14 weeks gives us the time needed to unlearn past habits and form new ones.

When you enroll you get immediate access to the welcome material + Lesson 01.

 

SUPPORT + MATERIALS

starWeekly group coaching calls with your instructor where you discuss the lessons, challenges, celebrations, and your experience with the practice 

starMonthly group coaching call with Cynthia 

starFour 1:1 Milestone Calls with your Instructor throughout the training 

starPrivate community group to connect with other students and ask questions, share intentions and get the support you need

starAccess to all video lessons and downloads, and over 25 meditations specific for communication

star Cynthia's Bestselling Books, How to Communicate Like a Buddhist, Talk to Yourself Like a Buddhist, How to Meditate Like a Buddhist, and Training Workbook

 

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10 Month Payment Plan

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Hi, I'm

I know the feeling of being exhausted by interactions and constantly feeling like you're saying the wrong thing and then getting stuck in your head for days about it.

Or starting to express yourself and then quickly backtracking on what you were saying, giving over your opinion for someone else's.

See, I used to be extremely passive aggressive, I'd shut down at any sign of confrontation or difficult conversation. I had a hard time expressing myself so that others could hear me and it felt like anytime I did get the courage to say something, I said it in the wrong way, that would lead to an argument and nothing would get resolved. Then weeks later the same conversation would come around leading to the same cycle and pattern.

There was a lot of self evaluation and judgment that kept me comparing myself to others and gave way to a lot of doubt and insecurity and anxiety in my most important relationships.

All of this was how I lived day-in-day-out for 30+ years until my whole world changed with one phone call.

 

The whole narrative of my life shifted when Mauricio (Mau) my first love, my best friend, the person who knew me the best in the world passed away unexpectedly in 2011.

The minute it happened, my life changed forever.

I was a blank canvas, empty.

In March 2011, I sat on the floor of my apartment in New York City, fumbling for my tissues. For months all I could do was lay or sit on my floor, cry, and blow out the pain into tissues or (most of the time) toilet paper. There I was, on my floor, when I realized nobody could come and take this suffering away. If I was going to find a way to enjoy being in the world, it was up to me to make it happen.

Out of my loss came this need, desire, to feel good, to feel cared for. But no matter how much other people tried to nurture me, they couldn’t.

Little-by-little, I realized that the only person who could take care of me, make me a priority, make me feel good, was me. I had to undo alot of what I had been taught and if I wanted to change the way I lived in the world I was going to have to change the way I interacted with it. This meant shifting the way I interacted with myself, others, and in turn the world.

If I wanted to feel more ease and peace within my relationships, it was up to me to figure out how to make that happen.

And I did.

And this is what I want to share with you. 

 

For the last six years I've used a proprietary process called the Kane Intentional Communication Practice™ that helps high achieving individuals speak their truth, better control their emotions, and have clear decision making.

I started sharing this practice to help others suffer less. I've been where you are and I know what it's like to struggle with expressing yourself, being passive aggressive, judgmental, constantly reacting and exaggerating— beating yourself up and wanting more peace and ease.

I spent thirty years not asking for what I needed, constantly feeling like what I had to say wasn't valuable or necessary and that the other person's opinion and voice mattered more than my own.

It took me a long time to figure this all out and I don't want you to do it alone.

 

Hi, I'm

I know the feeling of being exhausted by interactions and constantly feeling like you're saying the wrong thing and then getting stuck in your head for days about it.

Or starting to express yourself and then quickly backtracking on what you were saying, giving over your opinion for someone else's.

See, I used to be extremely passive aggressive, I'd shut down at any sign of confrontation or difficult conversation. I had a hard time expressing myself so that others could hear me and it felt like anytime I did get the courage to say something, I said it in the wrong way, that would lead to an argument and nothing would get resolved. Then weeks later the same conversation would come around leading to the same cycle and pattern.

There was a lot of self evaluation and judgment that kept me comparing myself to others and gave way to a lot of doubt and insecurity and anxiety in my most important relationships.

All of this was how I lived day-in-day-out for 30+ years until my whole world changed with one phone call.

 

What I also get to do with this work is keep Mau's memory alive. Every person I reach or teach gets to know him somehow, meaning they know his name, what he meant to me, and so he lives on and in a way, it gives his death purpose. He was funny, honest, direct, caring and thoughtful - and he didn't care so much about what other people thought. He expressed himself without fear and enjoyed life. 

This way of communicating that I created after Mau died is what's allowed me to love again and be in a healthy and thriving marriage, do what I love, and have calm and relaxed interactions with myself, my family, and my kids. 

Now, what I want to do is give you the same opportunity. I want to help you learn how to express yourself in a non-judgmental way, become confident, improve your relationships, control your emotions, create ease in relationships, release shame and guilt, empower you in decision making, and help heal generational wounds.

It's time.

 

The Kane Intentional Communication™ Training Program is for you if...

 

starYou are a high-achieving individual looking to experience more peace so that you can show up authentically in your most important relationships

starYou want to heal generational trauma

starThere have been conversations you know you need to have with your partner, children or at work and haven't

star You talk yourself out of saying things at home and at work, labeling them as not important so you don’t rock the boat

starYou’re noticing that you’re lashing out more with those you love, getting passive aggressive or just shutting down altogether

starYour relationship with your partner and children feel more distant and disconnected than ever before

 

starYou're having the same arguments and fights again and again with your family without anything getting resolved

starOthers at work have commented on how you're difficult to connect with and talk to

starEverything feels like a chore and you’re on autopilot most days and when you’re not, you’re dreaming about leaving or moving or being anywhere other than where you are

star You get panic attacks before speaking to large groups of people

starYou want to express yourself clearly and concisely

starYou want to feel confident in decision making

starYou are ready to be more honest and in control of your emotions

starWhen you bring things up in meetings, you feel ignored, or that other people’s opinions matter more than yours

 

The Kane Intentional Communication™ Training Program is for you if...

 

starYou are a high-achieving individual looking to experience more peace so that you can show up authentically in your most important relationships

starYou want to heal generational trauma

starThere have been conversations you know you need to have with your partner, children or at work and haven't

star You talk yourself out of saying things at home and at work, labeling them as not important so you don’t rock the boat

starYou’re noticing that you’re lashing out more with those you love, getting passive aggressive or just shutting down altogether

starYour relationship with your partner and children feel more distant and disconnected than ever before

 

starYou're having the same arguments and fights again and again with your family without anything getting resolved

starOthers at work have commented on how you're difficult to connect with and talk to

starEverything feels like a chore and you’re on autopilot most days and when you’re not, you’re dreaming about leaving or moving or being anywhere other than where you are

star You get panic attacks before speaking to large groups of people

starYou want to express yourself clearly and concisely

starYou want to feel confident in decision making

starYou are ready to be more honest and in control of your emotions

starWhen you bring things up in meetings, you feel ignored, or that other people’s opinions matter more than yours

 

YOU HAVE A CHOICE TO MAKE

 

Do It Yourself And Continue to be

Frustrated by the way you're interacting with those you love and those you don't even know. And frustrated that you can't change this negative communication loop

Struggling to keep your emotions in check with your children and at work, unable to not take things personally, get defensive, lash out, shut down, or get passive aggressive

Feeling numb. Things your partner says or does doesn't bother you anymore, because you've chosen to ignore them, not feel them, and move on

Disconnected from your partner, friends, colleagues, but also yourself. Wondering where you've gone all these years and if it's possible to find your voice again

Anxious and fearful to have conversations with your partner, kids, sister, brother, and general worry about life. The world doesn't feel like such a friendly place

A lot of negative loops in your mind. Self judgment and judging others over where you are in life, career, relationships

Feel unappreciated at home, misunderstood at work, invisible in your interactions with family. Very indecisive in most situations- where the needs of your colleagues, partner, friends come before your own

Avoid conflict with your partner, children, colleagues at all costs. Scared to have difficult conversations

 

Let Us Help So You Can Experience

Calm and relaxed conversations with your partner. No longer worried about what to say and how to say it

Confidence in expressing your wants and needs clearly and concisely at home and at work so the other person or group can hear it

No longer being gripped by the fear of expressing yourself and your needs to your family and supervisors

More connection and intimacy in your personal relationships

More clear on your wants and needs within interactions at work

What it's like to take care of yourself and navigate confrontation with your children, partner, or siblings

More joyful and intentional with your family and friends

More self-compassion and less self-evaluation and judgment. Less doubt and mental chatter that paralyzes you with fear and worry

What its like to no longer gossip about others at work or compare yourself to others success

Difficult conversations as essential conversations with your partner

Being capable of getting your needs met and setting and sticking to boundaries at home and at work

Much more space in the body and mind, opening you up to more possibility

 
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As I was in search to feel better in the world, I took courses, read books, went to seminars, did therapy, went to retreats and what I was finding out was that everything came back to how I communicated.

And it was one weekend meditation and writing workshop that changed my life forever. I had never meditated before, didn't know much about Buddhism, but I went because writing had always been cathartic for me.  Over that weekend I learned to meditate and it was there that I was introduced to the Elements of Right Speech in Buddhism. When I heard them I knew, this was it, these were guidelines I could follow. And, then, I woke up the next day asking, how do I do this? How do I speak in a kind, honest, and helpful way, and that's how my lifestyle experiment was born.

I began to practice interacting differently with myself, which lead to showing up differently with others and my environment.

 

Imagine what it would be like when...

 

starYou can talk to your spouse without getting triggered, seeing red, and wanting to ask for a divorce

starYour daughter gets upset with you and you don't yell back, say something hurtful, and walk away

starHaving a conversation at work with an important stakeholder who had been avoiding you and it ends with her asking you for more of your time to continue talking to her

 
 

star Having your partner and your children and your work need you all at the same time and you navigate with calm

starHaving a conversation with a coworker that you typically struggle with and walking away knowing it was the most productive conversation you've had with her in nearly five years

starYou no longer need to control everything and everyone in your department.

 

What if you could shift from overwhelm to ease in your most important relationships without compromising who you are?

 

Mickey

 
 

"I struggled with over-reactivity and over-sensitivity in my closest relationships which made me feel like I had no control over myself. Using the tools and coaching from this course helped me shift from feeling like a petulant child to feeling like a wise adult in my most challenging personal relationships."

 
 

"This powerful program has uprooted my negative self-talk. I am no longer trapped by judgment and toxic shame. The program has taught me how to tame my mind with self-compassion and honesty. I have stopped lying about my needs and have developed the courage to ask for help."

 
 

Franzie

 
 

Cheyenne

 
 

"Working with Cynthia changed my life. I'm more confident, proud, and calm because of what I know now, and I feel more free not only in my ability to express myself but in creating a space where others feel safe to do the same."

 
 

"Before this course I was having a hard time communicating with people who were important to me. Cynthia's class taught me tools and techniques to overcome those pitfalls. I learned a more preferable style of communication and was able to immediately put it into practice."

 
 
 

Madeline

 
 
 

Michelle

 
 
 

"I am more confident in my interactions. I swear less. I have less judgment if any at all. I am more present in my conversations. I am more patient and tolerant of others. I think more before I speak. I am more silent in conversations and allow others to finish speaking before I talk. I am in a better mood when I speak to people."

 
 
 

"The tools I learned are the foundation for my communication now, they have made me a better listener, I am able to articulate my feelings with less words and find that I have more confidence in managing conflicts. I am finding now I am able to take responsibility for what I say and not for how it was interpreted by the receiver. I also do not take responsibility for a conversation, no longer needing to fill up the space when there is a lull in the conversation."

 
 
 

Caroldean

 
 
 

What Students Are Saying

 
 

Mickey

 

"I struggled with over-reactivity and over-sensitivity in my closest relationships which made me feel like I had no control over myself. Using the tools and coaching from this course helped me shift from feeling like a petulant child to feeling like a wise adult in my most challenging personal relationships."

 
 

Franzie

 

"This powerful program has uprooted my negative self-talk. I am no longer trapped by judgment and toxic shame. The program has taught me how to tame my mind with self-compassion and honesty. I have stopped lying about my needs and have developed the courage to ask for help."

 
 

Cheyenne

 

"Working with Cynthia changed my life. I'm more confident, proud, and calm because of what I know now, and I feel more free not only in my ability to express myself but in creating a space where others feel safe to do the same."

 
 

What Students Are Saying

 
 

Madeline

 

"Before this course I was having a hard time communicating with people who were important to me. Cynthia's class taught me tools and techniques to overcome those pitfalls. I learned a more preferable style of communication and was able to immediately put it into practice."

 
 

Michelle

 
 

"I am more confident in my interactions. I swear less. I have less judgment if any at all. I am more present in my conversations. I am more patient and tolerant of others. I think more before I speak. I am more silent in conversations and allow others to finish speaking before I talk. I am in a better mood when I speak to people.

 
 
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In the Kane Intentional Communication™ Training Program, we help our students sleep through the night, become less anxious, break the cycle of past relationships, own their voice, stand in their power, be more honest and expressive, make clear decisions, and not be lead by their emotion.

 

Cynthia Kane is the CEO of the Kane Intentional CommunicationTM Institute, LLC, the leading communication institute for high achieving individuals that provides a holistic approach to effective communication. Cynthia uses her proprietary process called the Kane Intentional Communication PracticeTM to help her students experience more peace so that they show up authentically in their most important relationships.

She is the bestselling author of How to Communicate like a Buddhist, Talk to Yourself like a Buddhist, and How to Meditate like a Buddhist, and was named by Yahoo as the #2 Communication Coach to watch in 2021. She and her work have been featured in national and international publications including Spirituality & Health Magazine, Self Magazine, Thrive Global, Authority Magazine, The Washington Post, Woman’s Day, BBC Travel, Refinery29, Mind Body Green and more. She has been a featured mindfulness and meditation expert on Great Day Washington, Good Morning Arizona, Good Morning Connecticut, and All About Women – WENG RADIO. Podcasts she’s been featured on: Gold with Jeanette Schneider, Inner Light Project, What Matters Most, The Lit Up Lightworker, Mindful Communication, TheFutur, Sexy Soulful Success, Office Hours.  

Cynthia has a Bachelor of Arts degree from Bard College and a Master of Fine Arts degree from Sarah Lawrence College. She lives in Washington, DC, with her husband and two little kiddos.

 
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