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Communicate Calmly

Show Up At Your Best In Your Most Important Relationships

Experience more calm, connection and meaningful interactions in your most important relationships with the Kane Intentional Communication Practice. 

What if you could learn to let go of taking things personally, becoming passive aggressive, getting defensive, shutting down and going quiet or lashing out at your partner, children, and at work? 

What if you knew how to successfully navigate confrontation, passive aggressiveness and dismissive behavior, or the silent treatment? 

This is the work we do. 

Maybe you’ve read books, gone to counseling or therapy, went on retreat (or a few), tried hypnosis, meditation, yoga, and you’ve taken communication classes all to help you connect easier at home and at work - but nothing’s stuck. 

There's a reason. 

What is missing is a routine communication practice. 

Think of when you want to lose weight - you start a fitness routine or practice eating differently. 

Think of when you want to save money - you start routinely moving money out every month to a savings account. 

When you want anything, you set yourself up for success by using a practice to make it happen. 

Changing your relationships, interactions and communication is no different. 

What I also get to do with this work is keep Mau's memory alive. Every person I reach or teach gets to know him somehow, meaning they know his name, what he meant to me, and so he lives on and in a way, it gives his death purpose. He was funny, honest, direct, caring and thoughtful— and he didn't care so much about what other people thought. He expressed himself without fear and enjoyed life.

This way of communicating that I created after Mau died is what's allowed me to love again and be in a healthy and thriving marriage, do what I love, and have calm and relaxed interactions with myself, my family, and my kids.

Now, what I want to do is give you the same opportunity.

I want to help you learn how to express yourself in a non-judgmental way, become confident, improve your relationships, control your emotions, create ease in relationships, release shame and guilt, empower you in decision making, and help heal generational wounds.

IT'S TIME.

For the last six years I've used a proprietary process called the Kane Intentional Communication Practice™ that helps high achieving individuals speak their truth, better control their emotions, and have clear decision making.

I started sharing this practice to help others suffer less. I've been where you are and I know what it's like to struggle with expressing yourself, being passive aggressive, judgmental, constantly reacting and exaggerating— beating yourself up and wanting more peace and ease.

I spent thirty years not asking for what I needed, constantly feeling like what I had to say wasn't valuable or necessary and that the other person's opinion and voice mattered more than my own.

It took me a long time to figure this all out and I don't want you to do it alone.

What is the Kane Intentional Communication Practice?

A proprietary practice that helps heal generational trauma, create more calm and ease within relationships, connect students to what they want and need, foster confidence in decision making and expression, open and soften walls and barriers, create more meaningful conversations and connection. 

Over 60,000 people have taken courses, workshops, and trainings in the Kane Intentional Communication Practice through the Kane Intentional Communication Institute and their lives and relationships have changed because of it. 

See just some of what happens when people start to learn this practice of communication - and think about it - this could also be you. 

"I struggled with over-reactivity and over-sensitivity in my closest relationships which made me feel like I had no control over myself. Using the tools and coaching from this practice helped me shift from feeling like a petulant child to feeling like a wise adult in my most challenging personal relationships."

—Mickey

"This powerful practice has uprooted my negative self-talk. I am no longer trapped by judgment and toxic shame. The work has taught me how to tame my mind with self-compassion and honesty. I have stopped lying about my needs and have developed the courage to ask for help."

—Franzie

"This practice changed my life. I'm more confident, proud, and calm because of what I know now, and I feel more free not only in my ability to express myself but in creating a space where others feel safe to do the same."

—Cheyenne

What Students Are Saying

Madeline

 

"Before this course I was having a hard time communicating with people who were important to me. Cynthia's class taught me tools and techniques to overcome those pitfalls. I learned a more preferable style of communication and was able to immediately put it into practice."

 

Michelle

 

"I am more confident in my interactions. I swear less. I have less judgment if any at all. I am more present in my conversations. I am more patient and tolerant of others. I think more before I speak. I am more silent in conversations and allow others to finish speaking before I talk. I am in a better mood when I speak to people.

 
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This wasn't something I could find in any book— the how to communicate part. The how to become less reactive, more concise, more calm and centered during difficult interactions. The how of having easy interactions. I had to figure it out on my own.

In the beginning I didn't know if it was actually possible to stop taking things personally, judging others, feeling exhausted and drained, and start showing up authentically in my relationships as I hadn't for 30+ years, and I was scared of what others reactions would be and if I could navigate them.

But... I had no other choice.

It was either continue as I was or find a way to suffer less.

INTRODUCING

The Kane Intentional Communication™ Training Program

A group coaching program where we help you:

  • speak your truth even if you’re scared of the reaction
  • improve your relationships even if you feel it's impossible for things to be different
  • control your emotions even if you've been lead by them for 50+ years
  • become confident in decision making even if you don't know what you want or need right now
  • express yourself fully even if you don't think you can control your emotions
  • quiet the negative voice in your head even if it's been keeping you awake at night for years

 

The training is for those who are ready to:

starstop being passive aggressive, lashing out, shutting down, or taking things personally in their marriage, relationships with their children or at work

starspeak to their colleagues, employers, employees with more confidence and authenticity

starbecome more present with their children in their day-to-day interactions

starstop feeling trapped in the same conversation loop with their partner

starquiet the anxious thoughts and constant rumination

starstart asking for and receiving what they need in their most important relationships

starshow up in the way they want to for their partner, family, friends, children.

starget clarity, make decisions and have difficult conversations easily 

star create more meaningful conversations and connections

star invest in their most important relationships

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TRAINING MODULES

Foundation

starLesson 01: What is Intentional Communication: Here you learn what Intentional Communication is and its benefits.

starLesson 02: Guidelines of Intentional Communication: In this lesson you learn the guiding principles of Intentional Communication and begin to apply these guidelines to your interactions.

starLesson 03: The Practice of Intentional Communication: Here you get an overview of the practice. You learn what each part does individually and then how it fits into the whole.

 
 

Practice

starLesson 04: Meditation: You'll learn the practice of meditation and begin practicing meditations specific for enhancing communication. By the end of lesson 04 you will have a weekly, if not daily, meditation practice. Meditations are then prescribed for you throughout the training depending on what's coming up for you.

starLesson 05: Listen to Yourself: Here you'll begin to listen to your body and language. By the end of this lesson you will have changed your relationship to your negative self-talk and know how to quiet the mental chatter and let go of the self judgment and evaluation.

starLesson 06: Listen to Others: In this lesson you learn how to listen to others. By the end you'll be more present in your interactions, able to connect with those who disagree with you or have different opinions, and know how to hold space for others without fixing or giving advice.

starLesson 07: Speak Consciously, Clearly, and Concisely: This is all about expressing yourself in a way that others can hear you. By the end of this lesson you'll be clear on what you need within conversations and how to ask for what you need without worrying about the other person's reaction. You'll start seeing how valuable and necessary your words are and taking empowered action to get your needs met.

 
 

starLesson 08: Silence: Learning how to incorporate silence into your conversations is what you'll do in this lesson. By the end, you'll be using silence to create more connection, intimacy, and to access yourself in difficult moments.

starLesson 09: Difficult Conversations: This is all about having difficult conversations. You'll learn the formulas for different types of conversations, how to move through the fear of having them, what to do before, during,and after them, and by the end you'll be seeing difficult conversations as essential to your well-being and that of others as well.

starLesson 10: Putting it All Together: By this point the practice will have already come together for you and you'll be implementing it; however, this lesson puts it all together in a very practical way so you can see all the pieces working together.

There are two weeks per step in the practice. The first week is for learning and the second is for implementation. So new content is released every two weeks

This training is very intentionally designed to help you create new patterns of communicating. The 14 weeks gives us the time needed to unlearn past habits and form new ones.

When you enroll you get immediate access to the welcome material + Lesson 01.

 

SUPPORT + MATERIALS

starWeekly group coaching calls with your instructor where you discuss the lessons, challenges, celebrations, and your experience with the practice 

starMonthly group coaching call with Cynthia 

starFour 1:1 Milestone Calls with your Instructor throughout the training 

starPrivate community group to connect with other students and ask questions, share intentions and get the support you need

starAccess to all video lessons and downloads, and over 25 meditations specific for communication

star Cynthia's Bestselling Books, How to Communicate Like a Buddhist, Talk to Yourself Like a Buddhist, How to Meditate Like a Buddhist, and Training Workbook

"Before this training I was having a hard time communicating with people who were important to me. This practice taught me tools and techniques to overcome those pitfalls. I learned a more preferable style of communication and was able to immediately put it into practice."

–Madeline

"I am more confident in my interactions. I swear less. I have less judgment if any at all. I am more present in my conversations. I am more patient and tolerant of others. I think more before I speak. I am more silent in conversations and allow others to finish speaking before I talk. I am in a better mood when I speak to people."

—Michelle

"The tools I learned are the foundation for my communication now, they have made me a better listener, I am able to articulate my feelings with less words and find that I have more confidence in managing conflicts. I am finding now I am able to take responsibility for what I say and not for how it was interpreted by the receiver. I also do not take responsibility for a conversation, no longer needing to fill up the space when there is a lull in the conversation."

—Caroldean

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What Students Are Saying

 

Mickey

 

"I struggled with over-reactivity and over-sensitivity in my closest relationships which made me feel like I had no control over myself. Using the tools and coaching from this course helped me shift from feeling like a petulant child to feeling like a wise adult in my most challenging personal relationships."

 

Franzie

 

"This powerful program has uprooted my negative self-talk. I am no longer trapped by judgment and toxic shame. The program has taught me how to tame my mind with self-compassion and honesty. I have stopped lying about my needs and have developed the courage to ask for help."

 

Cheyenne

 

"Working with Cynthia changed my life. I'm more confident, proud, and calm because of what I know now, and I feel more free not only in my ability to express myself but in creating a space where others feel safe to do the same."

 

In the Kane Intentional Communication™ Training Program, we help our students sleep through the night, become less anxious, break the cycle of past relationships, own their voice, stand in their power, be more honest and expressive, make clear decisions, and not be lead by their emotion.

RIGHT NOW YOU'RE SHOWING UP IN THE SAME WAY 

With Others

 

  • scared to ask for what you want and need and have difficult conversations because of what the other person’s reaction will be  

 

  • expressing yourself but people find you too direct, aggressive and off-putting 

 

  • expressing yourself but people don't understand what you're saying or asking for
  • tired and irritated and unable to enjoy your partner, kids, work - everything seems overwhelming right now
  • constantly trying to feel heard in your relationships and respected and listened to
  • scared and worried of saying what you think, feel, and know is true for you 

 

With Yourself

 

  • beating yourself up for every little thing

 

  • judging yourself for what you said, didn’t say, should have said

 

  • tired of your own voice and constant doubt and worry 

 

  • feeling like there’s something wrong with you  

 

  • upset at yourself for what you can’t change or fix 

 

  • scared and worried of saying what you think, feel, and know is true for you

 

If the above sounds like you and what you’ve been struggling with and you no longer want to waste time trying to figure it out on your own, then apply to work with our team in the Kane Intentional Communication Training Program. There is no obligation to enroll once you’ve applied. The application process is to make sure it’s a good fit and that we can help with the communication challenges you’re facing. After you apply, please check your e-mail for next steps. CLICK HERE TO APPLY
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The Kane Intentional Communication Institute, LLC provides a holistic approach to effective communication. For the last six years the institute has offered training, workshops, and mentorship to help students better control their emotions within their conversations, express themselves consciously, clearly and concisely, work through the fear of another person’s reaction, change the relationship to themselves by changing the conversations happening within their heads, and reduce stress, anxiety and overwhelm.

The curriculum is based off a proprietary practice created by Cynthia Kane. Kane is the CEO and Founder of the Kane Intentional Communication Institute, LLC and is the author of How to Communicate Like a Buddhist, Talk to Yourself Like a Buddhist, and How to Meditate Like a Buddhist. She is a certified meditation and mindfulness instructor as well as certified breath coach. She holds a B.A. from Bard College and an M.F.A. from Sarah Lawrence College. She was named by Yahoo as the #2 Communication Coach to watch in 2021. She and her work have been featured in national and international publications including Spirituality & Health Magazine, Self Magazine, Thrive Global, Authority Magazine, The Washington Post, Woman’s Day, BBC Travel, Refinery29, Mind Body Green and more. She has been a featured mindfulness and meditation expert on Great Day Washington, Good Morning Arizona, Good Morning Connecticut, and All About Women – WENG RADIO. Podcasts she’s been featured on: Gold with Jeanette Schneider, Inner Light Project, What Matters Most, The Lit Up Lightworker, Mindful Communication, TheFutur, Sexy Soulful Success, Office Hours.