And yet, some people find a way to embody calm, peace and balance within their relationships. How do they consistently keep patience and compassion, clarity and focus, creativity and harmony during the most trying times? Consistently open to renewing and restoring their relationships without drama.
Most of us are emotionally and physically exhausted. The stress of our lives makes our relationships more difficult. We're quick to react with anger and frustration, impatience and defensiveness. And then we hold back our wants and needs, because we're scared of confrontation and the other person's reaction.
We're in a loop of dissatisfaction that feels never-ending.
Living in a state of depletion.
And, well, right now, it really is the song that never ends.
The soundtrack of our days.
You're starting to see it now, the hurt and anxiety that your reactions cause you and others in your life. At home with your partner and kids. At work with your colleagues, employees or employer. With your friends and family. Heck, it's even seeping out into your interactions at the post office or grocery store.
Day-in-day-out, the same interactions, the same arguments, the same stressors.
The same wish for it to feel and look different.
Sometimes it may feel like you're a 13 year old in a grown up body.
You're not the only one.
Recent statistics show that there is more anger and tension within our interactions since Covid. More anxiety and depression and repeated, sudden episodes of impulsive behavior.
Maybe you've tried to stop saying the same things and reacting the same way, but it doesn't work or stick, and you're at a loss for how to fix it.
Every thought that it wasn't possible to have different kinds of interactions, that there wasn't any use in trying, I've come face to face with. From feeling unheard, invisible, misunderstood, under-appreciated, and taken advantage of to struggling with comparing myself to others, wondering what was wrong with me that I couldn't figure this out. I've been there. I've walked on eggshells before, I've yelled and screamed and walked off like a child, too. But throughout all of these challenges, there's one thing I've learned that can prevent all of it from continuing or happening to you. It's the one thing I credit my comeback to.
Now I
Going from reactive to responsive in your interactions is as simple as learning a new practice of interacting. But it's not easy.
See right now, you're interacting based off your instincts. What you learned growing up from your parents, friends, teachers, partners, the media. You're interacting from a place of stress and survival within the body.
This is the pattern you are in now - your existing communication practice.
And while during a yoga, meditation, therapy, or hypnosis session you may be able to access a more relaxed state, it doesn't translate into your day-to-day interactions out in the world.
To be able to connect in a kind, honest, and helpful way in your relationships, it's about creating a new practice of communication that is more intentional - more purposeful.
Imagine having easy, flowing, adult conversations. Where you're consistently clear in your interactions, no longer worried about the outcome. Saying goodbye to taking things personally, making excuses, getting defensive, passive aggressive behavior and more.
The reason therapists send their clients to work with us is because communication is the seed from which everything else grows. Nurture this piece, learn how to care for it, feed it, water it, know how much sun it needs and the best environment - and the result is youth, balance, peace, poise, creativity, healing, faith, hope, and foresight in your interactions.
As one student just said to me the other day, "I knew what I was supposed to do - my therapist would say be grateful or pause or listen and share, but I couldn't just do those things." This practice is what makes what we "know" to do a reality in our relationships.
10 years of living this work + teaching men, women, and businesses how to manage their reactions without suppressing their emotions.
You can try to figure this out on your own, but my experience is here and available for you. I want you to learn from my mistakes so you don't lose the same amount of days as I did feeling stuck, stagnant, and alone. Either path you take won't be easy. But within this program you’ll have direct coaching with me throughout to take you through.
I've been where you are, figured out a practice to stop letting my reactions and fear ruin my relationships, and have the day-to-day fulfillment to prove it, as well as over 60k students whose lives have changed because of it.
What makes this different than other communication work out there is that
What We'll Cover
Learn a practice to help you feel calm and connected in your conversations that sticks
15 weeks of coaching and implementation
Weekly group calls with Cynthia (the first three Wednesday's of the month)
4 1:1 milestone calls with Cynthia
Video lessons, resources and meditations specific to communication
Private community group
Books and workbook
4 month check in after the training
Lifetime access
"This powerful practice has uprooted my negative self-talk. I am no longer trapped by judgment and toxic shame. The work has taught me how to tame my mind with self-compassion and honesty. I have stopped lying about my needs and have developed the courage to ask for help."
""I struggled with over-reactivity and over-sensitivity in my closest relationships which made me feel like I had no control over myself. Using the tools and coaching from this practice helped me shift from feeling like a petulant child to feeling like a wise adult in my most challenging personal relationships."
“My friends and family and kids share that I am so much calmer and centered. Definitely taking the time to respond is the biggest takeaway for me – be it written or oral communication. Also, even if I slip up and have a reactionary moment – it is a moment or a short time of upset versus hours and days of bad communication.”
“The practice has helped me begin to notice how my thoughts are often my saboteurs, undermining my self-confidence. I have been able to slow myself down before losing my patience and temper. An enormous shift in my interactions has been my relinquishing my need to control how the other person receives and processes my words, my intentions.”
"Before this training I was having a hard time communicating with people who were important to me. This practice taught me tools and techniques to overcome those pitfalls. I learned a more preferable style of communication and was able to immediately put it into practice."
""I am more confident in my interactions. I swear less. I have less judgment if any at all. I am more present in my conversations. I am more patient and tolerant of others. I think more before I speak. I am more silent in conversations and allow others to finish speaking before I talk. I am in a better mood when I speak to people."
""The tools I learned are the foundation for my communication now, they have made me a better listener, I am able to articulate my feelings with less words and find that I have more confidence in managing conflicts. I am finding now I am able to take responsibility for what I say and not for how it was interpreted by the receiver. I also do not take responsibility for a conversation, no longer needing to fill up the space when there is a lull in the conversation."
"Just in the five weeks that we've been working together, I have found that my life has changed. My communication is much better. It's made my relationships much richer, all relationships, especially my intimate relationship with my husband. It really has been amazing. Even in just five weeks, I can see a tangible difference in my life. And this is the difference that there were times when I thought I could never and would never see. So I highly recommend the training. "
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