Change the pattern, change the interaction
Going from reactive to responsive in your interactions is as simple as learning a new practice of interacting. But it's not easy.
See right now, you're interacting based off your instincts. What you learned growing up from your parents, friends, teachers, partners, the media. You're interacting from a place of stress and survival within the body.
This is the pattern you are in now - your existing communication practice.
And while during a yoga, meditation, therapy, or hypnosis session you may be able to access a more relaxed state, it doesn't translate into your day-to-day interactions out in the world.
To be able to connect in a kind, honest, and helpful way in your relationships, it's about creating a new practice of communication that is more intentional - more purposeful.
Imagine having easy, flowing, adult conversations. Where you're consistently clear in your interactions, no longer worried about the outcome. Saying goodbye to taking things personally, making excuses, getting defensive, passive aggressive behavior and more.
The reason therapists send their clients to work with us is because communication is the seed from which everything else grows. Nurture this piece, learn how to care for it, feed it, water it, know how much sun it needs and the best environment - and the result is youth, balance, peace, poise, creativity, healing, faith, hope, and foresight in your interactions.
As one student just said to me the other day, "I knew what I was supposed to do - my therapist would say be grateful or pause or listen and share, but I couldn't just do those things." This practice is what makes what we "know" to do a reality in our relationships.